Hello lovely, Happy new year to you!! I hope that you are doing well and in good health.
My Intention is to bring a little spark and inspiration into your life to help you understand that the power you desperately seek outside yourself lies within.
2020 for me was a year of intense growth through painful situations and uncertainty. Making hard core decisions haven’t been easy, to say the least, but taking responsability for what goes on in my own life it’s highly important to me.
For years I have been peeling layers of false guilt and shame and it’s finally paying off. My efforts have not been in vain. I have been able to give everyone the space that they need to take responsibility for their own actions and allow myself to deal with mine. Since then I feel lighter. I no longer carry other peoples baggage around like it’s mine.
In today’s society grown up adults refuse to take responsability for their life because they are afraid to look at their own shadows. And you might think…Why is this so hard? Because allowing yourself to get out of your confort zone and familiarity can be scary. Feelings of Inadequacy and vurnerability can creep in leaving you with a false illusion that it’s best to stay safe with what you know than to adventure into unknown waters.
We would rather turn into victims by blaming others for our own issues. We think it looks better if other people feel sorry for us than to have the courage to stand up for ourselves with honor, decency, kindness and integrity. It’s ok to make mistakes… You just have to own it!!
Unfortunately the blaming game has been around since the beginning of times. Adam blames Eve and Eve blames the snake. It is easier to find guilt and shame in others than to reconize our own faults. We avoid or pospone our healing by keeping busy with distractions on a daily basis.
Today, I encorage you to take some time alone and to dive deep into your heart and begin to identify the areas were you may not be taking responsibility for your own actions. Or you might be taking responsibilities that aren’t yours to carry!! Then, let go the need to control the outcome and whitness what happens.
Remind yourself often, that you are now a free agent, who no longer works for the garbage company!! Because, old habits tend to show up from time to time. You just have to stick to your new game plan and don’t back down!! Just like any other habit it takes practice.
Taking responsibility for your own life is the biggest act of self respect, love and kindness that you can ever have towards yourself. By accepting full responsability for your actions you are also giving permision to others to be free to do the same. By doing that you release them from any guilt or shame. Eventually, the ripple effect will have a very positive outcome in your life and in your relationships.
Okay my friend, I hope this was helpful for you. Until next time. Stay healthy and safe.
Much love always,